You’re not overreacting. If you grew up in a Christian home where love was conditional, mistakes led to shame, or obedience meant losing your voice–you may still carry emotional wounds. This guide is for you: the adult child seeking to heal without rejecting your faith.
What Happened to You Was Real
Attachment wounds often come from emotional neglect, harsh discipline, or feeling unseen or
unsafe. Even if your parents meant well, patterns of fear-based parenting can create anxiety,
people-pleasing, or disconnection from God and self. Healing begins by acknowledging the pain
with compassion.
You Can Break the Cycle
– Learn to identify internalized guilt and shame
– Rebuild your understanding of God’s character (loving, patient, safe)
– Create boundaries that protect peace without dishonoring your values
– Surround yourself with safe, emotionally mature community
– Receive counseling to grieve, process, and restore
You’re Not Alone–We’re Here to Help
Working with a therapist from our team of Christian counselors at Redefine can help you:
– Heal attachment wounds
– Reconnect with your faith
– Restore trust in healthy relationships
Ready to talk? Call (817) 562-8800 and get matched with a counselor who gets it.
Author: Diana Bigham, LMFT-S, RPT-S