Author: Thomas Hudson, LPC
As summer approaches, it brings with it the promise of scorching Texas heat but also adventures, and cherished memories. However, amidst the excitement of vacations, sports, pool days and all the free time not occupied by school, there is a significant aspect sometimes overlooked – the importance of maintaining a strong relationship between parent and child.
The summer break presents a unique opportunity for parents to deepen their connection with their children. With the absence of the daily school routine, families can have more time to engage in meaningful activities and foster a sense of closeness that can have long-lasting benefits for both parent and child.
One of the key benefits of nurturing a strong parent-child relationship during the summer is the opportunity for quality bonding time. Whether it’s going on outdoor adventures, exploring new hobbies together, or simply enjoying downtime at home, these shared experiences create lasting memories and strengthen the emotional bond between parent and child.
Additionally, a strong parent-child relationship, created or strengthened during the summer can have a positive impact on a child’s overall well-being and development. Research has shown that children who have a supportive and nurturing relationship with their parents tend to have higher self-esteem, better social skills, and improved academic performance. By providing not only a secure and loving environment but also relationship, parents can help their children thrive both emotionally and academically through the coming school year. The summer months can even offer parents an opportunity to serve as positive role models for their children. Whether it’s demonstrating the value of hard work through household chores or teaching important life skills through hands-on activities, parents play a crucial role in shaping their children’s values and beliefs. What better way to do this than leading by example and instilling positive habits together throughout the summer months.
The school year can be a whirlwind of business and we often think ‘Finally, I can rest’ just because the summer months have finally arrived. However, while we may think this is true, often our summers can become even busier and more hectic than the school year! This is why it is important to begin thinking now about how you can prioritize quality bonding time, fostering open communication, and serving as a positive role model. Through this you as parents can create lasting memories and provide your children with the love and support, they need to thrive while laying the groundwork for a strong, resilient family bond that will endure long beyond the summer months.
Obviously the age of your child will determine what your quality time and attempt to connect looks and feels like, however, creating a tech-free time is the most crucial thing you can do to create true and lasting connection. With younger ones the time together may need to be a little more ‘active’ in order to help them get that energy out! However, with tweens and teens this time together may just be taking a walk, sitting outside, taking a drive, or creating a new comfortable ‘talking’ place just for you and your child. No matter where you go, your goal should be to limit distractions as much as possible while creating the opportunity for your child to feel heard, seen and safe. It may take some attempts at this new connection time, especially with your teen, however, your child has a need and desire given to them by God to connect with you as their parent. Show your child that you can and want to be their safe place.
During these times it is okay to just be quiet and listen, give your child the space to just talk, maybe even ramble. Use this time to demonstrate how to listen in love; you can correct and teach at a different time, show your child that you can be a listener and they will continue to come to you and begin to enjoy and desire these special times you have created.